Posted on Wednesday, October 1, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Sports, Values
I love baseball. Last night I got home from work in time to watch the end of a great MLB playoff game between the Oakland A’s and the host Kansas City Royals.
At one point in the game the A’s lead over the Royals was so overwhelming statisticians at Fangraphs estimate that the Royals had a 3% (yes, three percent) chance of winning. See chart below.
Did the Royals give up? No. Did they muscle-up and power their way to victory? No, that was unlikely. According to ESPN.com they had the least home runs in all of baseball. What they could do was run. The Royals had the most stolen bases in MLB.
Posted on Tuesday, September 30, 2014
in Uncategorized, Values
MySilentScream was especially silent this last month.
At the risk of self-serving self-promotion, thank you to the hundreds of readers in twenty-nine countries who took the time to read mysilentscreams over the past month. Your graciousness is inexplicable and appreciated!
Posts will resume in October.
If you sent a comment that landed in the last four weeks among the 10,130 comments which are mostly spam, I’m sorry I missed it.
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Posted on Thursday, August 28, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
I know a lot of people disappointed with “the church.”
I don’t know of a perfect church out there; ours included.
There is always a point – or sermon – I disagree with, music that I don’t like, people that I don’t know, looks that feel judging, practices that confuse me, etc., etc.
They probably feel the same way about me! And you.
I’ve attended many churches of several denominations. In fact, I was in a church today with some things I fully agreed with and some teachings that … uhm, no!
Posted on Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Parents in pain.
What can we do?
Every child I’ve met wants to be affirmed that they are lovable, capable and worthwhile.
We can start there.
12 Ways To Encourage A Child (Ages 0-118)
“You Are Lovable!”: Give attention to their character.
– Who they are has greater value than what they achieve.
– Accept mistakes; show grace.
– Bad decisions, poor choices and mistakes can be great teachers.
– Offer unconditional love. Trust can be conditional, love cannot.
“You Are Capable!”
Posted on Tuesday, August 26, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
He could hear the yelling from the neighbors’ house every night.
Shouts of anger.
Shouts of pain.
Shouts of passion.
“Was there any gain?”
The Cost of Turmoil
Teens, families, friendships and all kinds of relationships suffer because of the lack of peaceful conflict resolution skills. Conflicts arise, those involved feel hurt, disappointed, afraid or frustrated, and it quickly turns into anger. Anger often erupts in retaliation or brutal honesty. Alienation increases, relationships are broken, and scars are formed.
Posted on Monday, August 25, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
If every time you looked in the mirror you saw someone different looking at you at would add to your stress too.
The process of adolescence is complex and unpredictable. The young person experiences physical changes that catapult their childish frame into that of an adult. The intellect intensifies to form logical patterns of thinking and begins to formulate future plans. The teen also struggles to form an identity separate from that of a child or a mature adult. Meanwhile, the teen is faced with issues of morality and must make critical decisions about sex, drugs, and other social behaviors.
Posted on Wednesday, August 20, 2014
in How To, Relational, Social, Values
We have a small bucket outside our garage door. When we don’t want to walk to the back corner of our backyard to the compost pile we toss compostable kitchen scraps into the bucket.
Yesterday as I threw some scraps into the bucket dozens of flies instantly and unexpectedly flew out of the bucket.
Al Andrews wrote a humble and insightful post entitled, What To Say When Everything Is Not “Fine”.
It made me think of our bucket of flies.
Posted on Monday, August 18, 2014
in Emotional, Intellectual, Values
My daughter Shannon recently took a form of the test most of us call “Myers-Briggs.” Shannon is persuasive, so of course the rest of the family was invited into the quest.
I last took the test three years ago. You can take it now for free.
Three years ago I scored an ISFJ nicknamed Protectors. I liked the idea of being a “protector.”
Protector, it sounds noble and compassionate. I’d like to be a protector.
Posted on Thursday, August 14, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Yesterday was our 326-month wedding anniversary.
It’s also just a start.
Asking someone out is a start.
Dating is a shared-journey.
A wedding is a transitional celebration.
A marriage is an interdependent challenge.
I’m naturally introverted.
Therefore, community doesn’t come naturally.
Romance wasn’t in my born-with skill sets.
Interdependence seemed like weakness.
On the other hand, I wanted a long and happy marriage.
I have a friend learning to overcome her addiction. She’s at Hazelden looking for hope and skills. Last month Robin Williams was doing the same thing.
Sadly, yesterday the news spread that he’d given up his search.
…parents give up
…the tempted give in
…spouses give up
…students drop out
…employers lessen expectations
…lovers give in
…lonely people lower standards
…people give up.
Too often people
…feel all alone
In my experience people feel hope-less far more often than they need to.