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Jun 10

Team Tensions

Posted on Tuesday, June 10, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

photo(3b)Sunday our Spring Cleaning Team tackled our home. Amy is detail-oriented. Josh is an innovative thinker and a hard worker. Shannon is a team player with a great attitude. I work long and hard.

That all sounds like a great productive team, but it takes some work to cope with each person’s unique style.

Team Tensions

Jun 9

Go Team!

Posted on Monday, June 9, 2014 in How To, Relational, Social, Values

Go Team“Spring Cleaning.”

What came to mind when you saw those words?

A celebration of the end of winter, a chore you dread, attacking chaos, creating order, an invitation to newness or a time to prep for a garage sale, or something else?

Maybe spring cleaning was just something other people did.

Bringing spring cleaning into our family culture is one of my wife’s wonderful contributions to our “team.” As Amy describes it, spring cleaning goes beyond the daily and weekly routines to deep clean.

Spring Cleaning

Jun 6

Moving On From Mistakes

Posted on Friday, June 6, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

hand-70508_640I can’t.
I won’t.

Never again.
It was a mistake.

“We all have times when we find it difficult to avoid making too much of our mistakes and perceived failures. But how do you not take rejection personally? How do you not feel like your world is crashing down around you?” 1

Moving On From Mistakes

Alice Boyes on PsychCentral identified seven ways to avoid personalizing errors and rejection. I commend her insights and I think you will too.  Note: Tips 1-3 were discussed yesterday.

Jun 5

Coping With “Unworthy”

Posted on Thursday, June 5, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

hammer02Most of us like to be chosen.
But, it feels almost offensive to be chosen when we feel unworthy.
The key is when we feel unworthy, not to settle for it.

Feeling unworthy is a vicious trap.

One of the keys to breaking free is separating truth from lies, fact from fiction and real from imagined.

Losing your job will not defeat you, believing it’s useless to try again will.

Losing your health will not defeat you, believing you’re useless will.

Failing in school will not defeat you, believing it’s hopeless will.

Jun 4

Rejecting Acceptance

Posted on Wednesday, June 4, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

girl help 1377798978mjnfxIt’s nice to be chosen.

To be chosen as a teammate.
To be hired as a colleague.
To be honored with a scholarship.
To be selected for a role in a play.
To be invited to join a small group.

It’s nice to be chosen, unless it isn’t.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
when needy people demand our attention.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
when you know you’re misunderstood.

It isn’t nice to be chosen
by a manipulative person.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
as a crush by the wrong person.

Jun 3

Chosen For A Reason

Posted on Tuesday, June 3, 2014 in Relational

photo(2)I’m sitting in my car on a beautiful morning. No, I’m not writing and driving.

The sun is bright. The sky is cloud-free. The temperature is perfect. The breeze is a pleasant cool whisper.

I’m listening to music and thinking.

I’m thinking about what it’s like to be awarded and rewarded; the joy of being chosen.

Chosen on Merit

I’m thinking about what it must have been like to be among the minimized and marginalized and then surprise! You’re chosen and prized.

Last week our friend Bill was chosen. He was recognized. He was rewarded and awarded.

May 28

Who’s Paying Attention?

Posted on Wednesday, May 28, 2014 in Emotional, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

IMG_1071Who are you when no one is looking?
What do you do when no one sees?
Who’s paying attention?

Today at TreeHouse we we able to answer those questions for one of our colleagues. In an almost unanimous vote Bill Goon was awarded our annual Teamwork award.

Bill won because when no one is looking, he’s working. When no one sees what he’s doing, he’s doing what he should do.

 Throughout the year Bill makes it possible for every van-driving direct-service staff to:
– Transport teens to programming
– Provide life-transforming one-on-ones.
– Laugh their way to and from trips.
– Enjoy great activities.
– And, do so safely for more than 20 vehicles!

May 21

Life’s NOT fair. What are they doing about it?

Posted on Wednesday, May 21, 2014 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

CryingIt was Easter Sunday. It’s was probably a gorgeous sunny day.

Picture it.

Sunshine and sun dresses. Pretty hats and ironed clothes. Easter Sunday brings out the people who might have set church aside for a time. It’s a time to celebrate. It’s a time to remember the greatest event in human history. It’s a time for spiritual renewal and remembrance. Families reunite. Friends renew friendships. Songs fill their mouths. Joy fills their hearts. Smiles fill the air. Souls sail.

Unless…

May 20

Life’s NOT fair. What are you going to do about it?

Posted on Tuesday, May 20, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

depression-20195_640Angi, in response to Legacy Measuring Stick commented, “What is your legacy measuring stick? and “What’s a next step for you to make progress?” Not a clue…”

In case you missed it, I replied:

Isaiah and his listeners had a similar concern.
That’s why God taught them:
Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you;
therefore he will rise up to show you compassion.
For the Lord is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait for him!

So, each of us should live present in the moment.
While we pray, listen and wait.
Give it time.
It will become more evident.

May 15

Legacy Measuring Stick

Posted on Thursday, May 15, 2014 in Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Yellow_Ruler512What are you known for?

Your family?
Your friends?

Your car?
Your house?

Your trendiness?
Your frugality?

Your kind heart?
Your rebellious streak?

Your sweet singing voice?
Your big mouth?

I’m known for many things. I might be best known for my unpretentiousness. I am who I am. But, if I settled for “who I am” I would miss out of much of my potential.

Potential is who we could be.
Potential is what we could do.
Actual is what is.

The actual you and the potential you are both measuring sticks of your legacy.