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Feb 26

Crossroads

Posted on Wednesday, February 26, 2014 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

Crossroad_in_winterLast week a snowfall dumped ten inches of snow in our yard, driveway and on our streets. Many mysilentscream readers need no explanation, but allow me to explain for the rest. 1

When snow falls in urban areas, especially when snow falls in large amounts during weekdays, life continues. It may continue at a crawl, but people need to get home from school or work. They take the bus home, commute home, or drive home; they need to get home.

And, last week cars, buses, and trucks did what they do; they transported. They also compacted the freshly-fallen snow.

Feb 20

Score!

Posted on Thursday, February 20, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, TreeHouse, Values

photo 1Yesterday I was playing goalie.

The score was tied.
A minute to play.

The broomball was free on the right side.

I checked my angles. I checked my distance from the goal. I felt confident I was close enough to make a play.

I raced up to the ball.

Vivian (pictured in the back row, second from the left), our best goal scorer was near their goal crease. I knew if I got to the ball and made a good pass, that Vivian could win the game for us.

Feb 19

5 Gold Medal Good Ideas

Posted on Wednesday, February 19, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, TreeHouse, Values

mens-ski-halfpipe-1392760999349-master495Yesterday I sat in a chair and cheered.

I sat watching the Olympics. I cheered the Olympic skiers working the half-pipe. They were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.

Yesterday I also sat with several friends. I cheered them on. These friends are working through pain. Like the skiers they were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.

The skiers were surrounded by fans.
My friends were surrounded by friends.

Circumstances are different but the skiers and my friends have some things in common.
They can fall.
They can fail.
They’ve done it before.

Feb 18

See Yourself

Posted on Tuesday, February 18, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual, Values

eye-114015_640For as long as I can recall I have struggled with the fear of rejection and the fear of failure. Though I’ve made progress, the battle continues.

Maybe you struggle with those fears too.

There are many things I try to elevate up my sense of self worth including personal happiness, hearty laughter at home, healthy friendships and professional success, but nothing seems to have lasting impact.

I have loving family members, caring friends, wise mentors, learned teachers, honorable leaders, truth-telling pastors, life-coaches and counselors, and a pile of good books, but it’s still not enough.

Feb 14

Beauty: See it. Believe it. Say it. Stand by it.

Posted on Friday, February 14, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

snow_heartIn this the final slice in a series of posts reflecting on the songs of Bruno Mars we’re examining the virtues of his perspective in his song “Just the Way You Are.”

If you need to catch up a bit:
1. Bruno, What’s On Your Mind?
2. Ruins and Regrets
3. 5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart
4. Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom

Just the Way You Are

On Just The Way You Are Bruno Mars wants the object of his affection to know that he thinks she’s beautiful. I don’t think I’ve met a woman who didn’t want to be thought of as beautiful by her loved ones.

Feb 13

Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom

Posted on Thursday, February 13, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

Bruno3These last few days we’ve been looking at some Bruno Mars songs and lyrics since he was featured on the Super Bowl Halftime Show.

Marriage

Today is Amy and my 320-month wedding anniversary. Yes, I still count months because I treasure our marriage.  MySilentScream is here Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day and I hope to inspire you to treasure marriage, whether it’s yours or not.

In “Marry You” Bruno sings,

Cause it’s a beautiful night,
We’re looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.

Feb 12

5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart

Posted on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Bruno2In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? and Ruins and Regrets Bruno Mars described the dangerous relationships he pursued.

Women aren’t the only ones who live with the wounds of a broken heart.

Bruno Mars’ “When I Was Your Man” describes the pain of his own broken heart.

Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
Our song on the radio but it don’t sound the same
When our friends talk about you, all it does is just tear me down
‘Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name

Feb 11

Ruins and Regrets

Posted on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Bruno1In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? he reveals the kind of relationships he’s pursued.

In Our First Time he goes into more details.

And now now here we are
In this big old empty room
Staring at each other, who’s gonna make the first move?
Been doing our thing for a minute
And now both our hearts are in it
The only place to go, is all the way

His intentions are obvious.
His intents are clear.

Is that alright?
Is that okay?

Just in case she says, “NO!” he answers his own question.

Feb 4

Bruno, What’s On Your Mind?

Posted on Tuesday, February 4, 2014 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Sports, Values

Bruno1_30pAccording to a FOX Sports press release there were 115.3 million of us watching Bruno Mars and the Red Hot Chili Peppers perform during the PEPSI SUPER BOWL XLVIII HALFTIME SHOW.

I love drum solos; and as Bruno Mars began the show with a drum solo, I was like “Woah, he’s good.” As Bruno began to sing the crowd that filled our basement were impressed too: “He’s talented.” “YEAH!” Later my daughter Shannon added, “That’s a sweet voice.”

Jan 30

Need a Jump-Start? Let Go Of Judgments

Posted on Thursday, January 30, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

boy13777990034qk36It’s freezing cold in Minnesota this week. Many cars lay dead needing a jump-start.

Many of us need a jump-start in our cold heart.  My suggestion: Let go of judgments.

“One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier,” wrote Leo Babauta, “is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.” Yesterday we highlighted Leo’s insightful post Letting Go of Judging People.

I know I’m imperfect, I’m flawed. I’m a sinner. I have no right to judge anyone, but I still judge others far too often.