Posted on Thursday, May 5, 2011 in Uncategorized
Overcoming the fear of being exposed is one of the keys to breaking the bondage of the tricks and lies about cutting.
The Fear Of Exposure Perverts Our Thinking
“Psychologist Larry Crabb says that the primary motivation for all of our social behavior is a fear that if others really knew us as we are, they would reject us in disgust. This fear of exposure is rooted in our sense of the ugliness of our fallen natures as they have been perverted and corrupted by sin. Satan delights in inflaming this fear…”
“M. Scott Peck has observed that the central defect of evil people lies not in the fact that they sin but in the fact ‘that they refuse to acknowledge [their sin]’. He also points out that evil people are the people of the lie, ‘deceiving others as they also build layer upon layer of self-deception’.” 1
The Fear Of Exposure Is Prevents Vunerability
After the KARE11 feature entitled “Cutting: Teens injure themselves to cope with emotional pain” contributor Angie wrote, “It’s nice to see that people will speak up about something as dark and lonely as cutting and open it up for parents to discuss. It was something I wouldn’t have wanted to share with anyone, let alone the media. I must say I am really proud of all those teens…”
The Fear Of Exposure Is Overcome By A Grounded Sense Of Significance & Security
God offers significance. Significance is “a purpose for living which will give me a real and lasting impact on my world and a purpose which I am completely adequate to accomplish.” 2
God offers security. Security comes from unconditional love. “People need that kind of love. We need, really need, to be loved as we are, loved at our worst. We need to regard ourselves as worthwhile. In order to do so, we must not only be significant but also be secure in the unconditional love of another person.” 3
The Fear Of Exposure Is Overcome When We Defeat Satan’s Lies
“On the basis of the salvation God has provided for us, the Scriptures lay out practical guidelines by which we can defeat Satan.
Have Confidence in God. The first decision we must make to be freed from Satan’s power is to choose to trust God. We must acknowledge our sinfulness, and then accept the free gift of salvation God has offered us. Jesus Christ died for our sins. He paid the price for us.
Submit to God and Resist Satan. Although Christ has given us authority over Satan, we can exercise it only as we submit ourselves to God and resist Satan.
Be Aware of Satan’s Strategies. Satan can take advantage of us if we are ignorant of his tricks and lies. For example, by harboring anger, we “give place to the devil”. Beware Satan is looking for someone to devour with his tricks and lies. 4
1 & 4 From WHAT IN THE WORLD IS SATAN DOING?
2 & 3 From Larry Crabb’s Basic Biblical Counseling