Posted on Tuesday, December 27, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Social, Spiritual, Values
New Year Old Problems
She looked like a model. She walked like a model; but the look at her eyes was different.
I felt sad when I looked in her eyes. They looked empty. Dark and vacant, they “felt” empty. Worse still she felt worthless; like the empty packaging of unwrapped presents.
She felt like trash. She lived trashy.
Filled with beauty and potential. When she was born her family had such high hopes. We wanted so much more for her than she was now facing.
What happened? Where did she go wrong?
What cause the change? What happened to her eyes?
Sadly, like so many others, drugs had taken her away from us.
She looked for solutions to the loneliness she felt. She looked for hope amid her feelings of hopelessness. She longed for non-judgmental friends, instead she found vacant lifeless party-buddies who avoided judging others lest someone point out the emptiness of their own lifestyle.
What happened? All the good intentions, all the good advice, lay on the ground like unpicked ripened apples.
How could this have happened? To someone who seemed to have all?
New Year New Start
Now almost forty years old, sadly my friend is still lost. On the other hand, it’s not hopeless. It’s neither hopeless for her or for your friends.
What could we have done? What should we have done? And most importantly, what can we do now?
You may not know my friend, but you know a friend or a friend of a friend who lives like my friend.
What can you do?
I would first pray. I have found prayer does three things:
- Asking God’s help reminds me that I am not powerful enough to help alone.
- Asking God’s help reminds me that I am not powerless to do something.
- Asking God’s help reminds me that I am not alone in the effort.
“In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears.” [Psalm 18:6]
I would ask God for help. My best prayers often begin as simply as, “Please God help…”
More tomorrow about helping others have a better 2012.