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May 11

Mothers Day Apologies You Might Need

Posted on Sunday, May 11, 2014 in Uncategorized

mother-sonI don’t know what to say.

I don’t want to say it wrong.”

I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard those two phrases. I even color-coded them, because most often I’ve heard girls and women say the second, and boys and men say the first.

Why? Hurt people hurt people.

Regardless what your mother has said or done, intentionally or not, with genuine love, misguided “love” or with hate in her heart, her choices are her choices, her attitudes are her attitudes. And, yours are yours.

Do not try to change the other person, the change starts with ourselves.

Many of you have had conflicts with your mother that left one or both of you feeling wounded, bloodied, scared and scarred.  Realistically you and I cannot change anyone else.  You have to deal with you.

Dealing with Conflicts

I believe that if you mess up, fess up.

So on you behalf, with the wisdom I’ve gained from thousands and thousands of “I-wish-didn’t-say-it” conversations I present honest, unfiltered, apologies you might need to deliver to a mother today.

800px-Baby_Mother_Grandmother_and_Great_GrandmotherMothers Day Messages You Might Need

Were you rude?

I’m sorry. Yes, I said it. I was rude. You didn’t deserve it. Please forgive me. I don’t want to be rude to you again.

Were you inconsiderate?

I’m sorry that I don’t think about your needs more often. Please forgive me. I don’t want to be inconsiderate to you again.

Were you hurtful?

I’m sorry that I don’t think about what you want – rather than way I want – more often. Please forgive me. I will be more tenderhearted in the future.

Were you argumentative?

I’m sorry that I yelled. I was angry and felt afraid that something wouldn’t happen I did want. Please forgive me. I don’t want to fight like that with you again.

Were you impatient?

I’m sorry that I was impatient. I wanted my way, and I wanted it “right now.” I don’t want to act like that again. Please forgive me.

Were you wrong?

I’m sorry. Yes, I said it. I meant it. I was wrong. I’m sorry, please forgive me.

What Now?

When a mom fears others will abandon her, she may choose not to trust.
Be trustworthy! Ease her fears.

When a mom feels hurt, she might choose to guard her heart.
Protect her heart! Learn her love language.

When a mom believes others will take rather than give, she may be suspicious.
Be generous!

Want to be different that you were? Prove it!

Suggestions:

1. Pray for wisdom to see situations clearly.
2. If you mess up, fess up.
3. Ask God for strength and discipline to change.
4. Stop sinning before something worse happens.
5. Ask others to help you stay on the right path.

“Now, do your best to not do it again!” is #mysilentscream.

#LeavingALegacy

Note: For those who cannot deliver your apology – for whatever reason – I suggest you do what I’ve done in those situations. Pray, “Please God, I’m sorry that I … please deliver my message and bring healing where there was hurt.”

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