Posted on Monday, March 21, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social
Gary Smalley wrote, “Sharing deep feelings with each other is emotional intercourse, and it’s vital to sexual satisfaction.“
Listening to couples talk about their sex lives for the past two decades certainly has validated that statement.
Charlie Shedd interviewed a number of women and asked about their sex life. One woman said, “I always thought that sex begins at breakfast. A few tender words to start things off would mean so much. Then perhaps a phone call sometime during the day. Some endearments exchanged when he comes home and maybe some help with the supper dishes. Talking things over after the children are in bed. Exchanging ideas. Discussing what we’ve been doing during the day. A love pat here and a few kisses at the right time. I guess I’ve had the wrong idea. I thought maybe sex could begin at breakfast, build up during the day, and then explode in bed at night!”
To which most wives I know would shout “Amen!”.
For Busy People with too little time the floodgates of love and true intimacy are rusting shut. On the other hand, if you want your love life to flourish you can find some practical and fascinating tips in two books by Charlie Shedd.
While away at college Karen Shedd became engaged. Looking forward to a long and happy union, she wrote to her father Charlie Shedd for advice. Those letters of honest, practical advice on love were later collected as Letters to Karen.
Shedd followed Letters to Karen with Letters to Philip. I’d describe Letters to Philip but I love Amazon’s description: “a warm, witty, and wise book for every young man who has ever wondered what to do and say in difficult situations with the opposite sex.”
I love both books!