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Dec 18

Friendships Need Honesty

Posted on Tuesday, December 18, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

Since 1990 I’ve worked at TreeHouse. TreeHouse is a faith based, non-profit organization offering hope and guidance to hurting teens, alumni, and parents during difficult times.

TreeHouse is a safe place to be real about the pain in their lives that is causing them to think and act out in destructive ways. TreeHouse is a place to have fun, meet friends, discover faith, overcome pain, serve others, and be empowered to succeed.

TreeHouse alumni often tell me that they wish that they had relationships as adults like the ones that they had at TreeHouse.

Healthy relationships are hard work and many adults either don’t know how or don’t take the time to build truly lasting and meaningful friendships.

What’s it take to be a good friend?

Honesty, trust, respect, fun, unselfishness, humor, patience, commitment, integrity, and kindness form the foundation upon which healthy friendships stand strong.

Yes, friendships are hard work, but friendships are one of the few things in life that may last a lifetime.

At TreeHouse teens are acculturated to believe that relationships are meaningful and that each teen is “lovable, capable and worthwhile.”

In the support groups the groundwork is laid to build interdependent friendships.

Every week in support groups the rules are repeated. There are only four but they are important to establish a culture that has facilitated life transformation for a generation.

“Be honest” might seem obvious, and common sense, but it’s not a value consistently shared by everyone.

“Honesty builds trust among group members and facilitates spending time on what actually happened rather than spending time on an exaggerated story.”

Genuine heartfelt support comes through honest communication.

What’s it take to be a good friend?

Good friends share honestly.


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  1. I think we were writing about our topics at the same time. Mine was Corporate America needs honesty. The beginning of my correspondence was “I am terribly sorry, I made a mistake…..” it continued on with what the mistake was, how I fixed it, and another apology. Amazing what a little ownership, accountability and humility will do…. just sayin’

  2. […] Do you relate like you value honesty? […]

  3. Again, you’re a role model for us.
    Even more so, perhaps your courage will empower others to accept responsibility rather than pass blame.
    Thank for sharing your story!

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