Posted on Tuesday, May 3, 2011 in Uncategorized
Many cutters cut because they believe lies about their nature. They feel that their very existence is under a foreboding cloud that leave them hopeless to change.
Hopeless Lie – I Deserve It
“I’ve never made my daughter feel inadequate. She’s an honor student. I just don’t understand why she says she cuts herself because she’s “a failure at life.”
“My brother feels so guilty all the time. He cuts himself and says he deserves it.”
“My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.”
A healthy conscience is a good safeguard. God wants us to feel guilty for our sins, but not to feel a sense of hopeless shame and false guilt driven by Satan’s lies.
“And friends, once that’s taken care of and we’re no longer accusing or condemning ourselves, we’re bold and free before God!” [1 John 3:18-20, MSG]
We can be freed from false guilt.
A Hopeless Lie – I’m Defective
“So many people like her. Why does she feel so lonely?”
“He sits home alone playing video games. It’s like he’s afraid to get out and make friends.”
When we feel off — unusual in a defective way — we feel alienated from others. Alienated people often push others away either passively or aggressively because they fight the grip of the fear of rejection. They feel better pushing others away thus protecting themselves from the rejection of others. Caught up in a sense of alienation many cut to have a sense of control over some part of their lives.
“Even if my father and mother forsake me…leave me…abandon me…desert me…
the Lord will hold me close.” [Psalm 27:10]
We do not have to live alone fearing loneliness. God will not reject us.
As a hopeless seventeen year old, “I never imagined my life could turn out this way.” Now thirty years later I can barely understand how much better my life has become, and again, with certainty I can say, “I never imagined that my life could be this good.”
While many factors in life are circumstantial, most of my pain was self-inflicted. I embraced lies. I hope more people will safeguard their lives by embracing the truth.
The “I am hopeless” myth leads to the despair.
“I am what I am. I cannot change. I’m hopeless.” is a powerful lie.
Fortunately, the Bible teaches us that every human being has dignity.
Randy Alcorn expresses it this way, “You are a special creation of a good and all powerful God. You are the climax of his creation, the magnum opus of the greatest artist in the universe. You are created in His image, with capacities to think, feel, and worship that set you above all other life forms. You differ from the animals not simply in degree, but in kind.
Not only is your kind unique, but you are unique among your kind. God has masterminded the exact combination of DNA and chromosomes that constitute your genetic code, making you as different from all others as every snowflake differs from the rest.
Yes, you are sinners, and in and of yourselves you do not deserve to go to heaven. But despite your rebellion, your Creator loved you so much and so intensely desires your companionship and affection that he gave the life of his only Son that you might spend eternity with him. If you are willing to accept the free gift of salvation, you can become a child of God, the King of the universe.”
Gratefully this truth is mysilentscream too.