Posted on Wednesday, August 29, 2012
in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Yesterday, I exposed a few reasons why we procrastinate including:
We feel overwhelmed.
We overestimate the amount of time needed.
We would rather be doing something else.
We think if we wait long, the task will go away.
We fear failure.
We fear success.
We enjoy the last-minute adrenaline rush.
What’s beneath those reasons?
There are many factors, here are a few:
Christopher procrastinates signing up for football because he’s afraid to have all the lies he’s told about his abilities exposed.
Marie procrastinates doing her homework — if she does it at all — because she’s afraid of rejection if she’s seen as a failure. If she believe that she’s not living up to someone’s standards she can easily use the “I had to do it last minute” excuse to explain away shortcomings.
Anthony procrastinates developing relationships with women because his low level of self-esteem creates enough fear to avoid risking the possibility of rejection.
Julie procrastinates losing weight because she believes her shame-filled lies that she’s “ugly and will always be ugly” thus losing weight is unnecessary.
David procrastinates and is always late for his job because he believes it’s a pointless job that doesn’t pay him enough.
Carmen loves her aging parents but procrastinates spending time with them because she fears experiencing an even greater loss when they pass away.
Any of those sound familiar? Like a loved one? Sibling? Co-worker? Friend? Or, like yourself?
How can I procrastinate less often?
You might be asking, “What can I do about my procrastinating?”
To that I might ask, “Why are you procrastinating now?”
Don’t know? Afraid to ask?
Here’s a helpful exercise I’m calling “Face It” or F.A.C.E. I.T.
F – Find something that you know you’re procrastinating with
A – Ask yourself, “Why am I procrastinating with this?”
C – Challenge your reasons to feel your feelings & find the facts
E – Examine your reasons: What do you feel strongest?
I – Investigate why you feel strongest about those factors
T – Target solutions to remedy those factors
Give “Face It” a try and let us know what you learn.