Posted on Wednesday, June 26, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Golfers yell “fore” when he or she hits a shot that might strike another golfer on the course. In fact, it is every golfer’s responsibility to watch carefully after hitting a shot to make sure another golfer is not in danger.
Unfortunately, I’ve had to shout “Fore!” more than once.
Sometimes it’s just a warning.
Other times it’s imminent danger.
To me and you: “Fore!” “My friends, watch out!” 1
I’ve spent the last year thinking through myself. I am trying to notice, to watch:
– What am I doing?
– Why am I doing it?
– Who’s watching?
– Am I living and acting like someone I would admire?
People notice, they wonder if we care.
Do You Care? About me? Really?
And, when we’re honest, we say…sometimes.
Fortunately, we can learn to care more.
But, too often our pride stands in the way.
Even with God.
“If you hear God’s voice today, don’t be stubborn!” 2
Why would God say that?
Because we are stubborn. We can and do ignore God.
– “I don’t want to talk to him.”
– “I need that.”
– “It’s her fault. She has to take the first step.”
– “I deserve this!”
– “I can’t.”
- “I don’t want to talk to him.”
It’s true: We need healthy boundaries.
- “I need that.”
It’s true: God expects us to respect our own needs.
- “It’s her fault. She has to take the first step.”
It’s true: We need to let others take responsibility for their own choices.
- “I deserve this!”
It’s true: We have a right to gain benefits from our hard work.
- “I can’t.”
It’s true: Sometimes it’s not within our power to do.
But too often we make excuses, and minimize our responsibility to take risks, fight down our selfishness and blame others. We justify self-centeredness and make excuses. They are all enemies of empathy.
“Do not be stubborn as in the past when you turned against God…” 3
1 – Hebrews 3:12, CEV
2 – Hebrews 3:7-8, CEV
3 – Hebrews 3:8, NCV