Posted on Friday, June 17, 2011 in Uncategorized
Being a dad is hard; harder than I realized it would be.
I knew it would be a challenge. I was nervous when Amy wanted to become parents. I knew it was a lot of responsibility. I knew it might be a thankless job. I knew what tough times I put my parents through.
I also knew that I wanted to be a good dad. I wanted to be the kind of dad that got it right.
In my list of life goals I wrote, “I want to be the kind of dad that my kids love and admire.”
Being a dad is hard; harder than I hoped it would be.
Really, my kids, Josh & Shannon, are great. The problem is me. I keep falling short.
I asked the kids for an honest assessment.
Five things I got wrong that I tried to get right:
1. You didn’t always know when to make us do things ourselves and when you pushed me too hard to be independent when I just needed help.
2. You assumed that you knew what we were thinking.
3. You’ve been impatient.
4. You didn’t always give mom the attention she needed.
5. You worked too many hours even though other people benefited.
Five things I’m getting right:
1. You tried to become a better dad and improve as a dad.
2. You always did what you thought was best for us.
3. You walked what you talked. You taught us about God and you’re a role model for how to live.
4. You loved us by taking time for us like playing with us.
5. You punished us when we did things wrong & protected us from bad movies & music.
Being a dad is hard; harder than it seems.
Fortunately, God, the Father of humanity, knew that dad’s would need help. Here is some of God’s advice:
Fathers, be emotionally close and available to your children.
“God sent his Son, born of a woman…to buy freedom for us … so that he could adopt us as his very own children. And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” 1
Fathers, choose to be loving, encouraging and fair.
“Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly….
Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.” 2
Fathers, be wise role models.
“My child, listen to me and do as I say, and you will have a long, good life.
I will teach you wisdom’s ways and lead you in straight path
When you walk, you won’t be held back; when you run, you won’t stumble.” 3
Fathers, discipline your children lovingly.
“For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how…
No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” 4
1. Galatians 4:4b-6 NLT
2. Colossians 3:19, 21
3. Proverbs 4:10-12
4. Hebrews 12:10-11