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Embrace Awareness Of The Neediness Of Others

Posted on Thursday, June 16, 2011 in Uncategorized

Okay, how cool is that.  I was just thinking about my friend Jonnie & I was about to write about my friend Erica.

They walked into the coffee shop I’m in, together!

Let me explain.

Jonnie and his brother Nate are in the Navy.  Jonnie will soon join Nate in Hawaii.  Nate will be stationed there until he is re-assigned to Guam.

I was thinking about Jonnie because next Spring I will see his smiling face IN Hawaii.


Yeah, I know, right?!?!

We no longer use credit cards, so a “plastic vacation” is not an option.

We still have debt we’re paying off.

We save each month, but don’t have enough money saved for the 25th anniversary Hawaii trip Amy has dreamed about for years. 

Dreamed about for years!

Amy has made endless sacrifices for me to spend the last twenty-plus years at TreeHouse.  She just wished that somehow “we could take a trip to Hawaii for our 25th anniversary.”

It looked like an impossibility, until…


…ten days ago I met with a new friend for lunch.  At the end of our lunch meeting he asked, “What can I do for you?”

“What can I do for you?”, I’ve asked that question of other people many times.

Usually they say “I don’t know.”, and we leave it at that until something arises.

When people say yes they usually ask for my time, my moving skills, a ride somewhere or my willingness to buy coffee, ice cream or lunch.

If I can I like to help others.

Back To My Story

Knowing that there is only one thing I really wanted I knew immediately what I wanted to answer my new friend’s question.  The question inside me is do I?  Hesitantly I did.  “If there is one thing I care most about — that I do not have — is a way to get my wife to Hawaii next year for our 25th anniversary.  So if you know people who know people who might know how to make that more possible I would love to talk about it.”

Without hesitation, he replied, “I think I have one-hundred thousand frequent flier miles I can give you.  That will get you there.”

I almost cried.

We talked for a couple more minutes before I left.

On the way home I stopped my car.  I was crying. My friend gave my wife what I couldn’t give.

You and I don’t have “one-hundred thousand frequent flier miles” to give away, but we can share what we do have.

How?  Notice the needs.

Erica’s Awareness Of The Needs Of Others

My friend Mandy’s house was destroyed in the North Minneapolis tornado in May.  Mandy and her roommates Kelli and Heather were suddenly homeless.

On May 27th Heather wrote, “We have been staying at our friend Erica’s house since the storm.  Talk about an amazing woman.  She has been sleeping only inches from me every night.  Holding my hand, praying for me.  It has been really hard to sleep since the storm.  I wake up every couple of hours.  I have strange dreams.  I hear low rumbling noises and think back to the tornado.  One night my body wouldn’t stop shaking.  And Erica has just sat with me and listened to me and let me cry! I think I might be a crazy person with out her right now!

I often try to pretend that I’m a lot stronger than I actually am…This week I have been weak and vulnerable in a way that I have never been before.  I keep coming back to this verse, “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2nd Corinthians 12:9

You may not have a frequent-flier miles or a home to share, but you and I do have something precious to share with those in need, our time and our attentiveness.  Embrace awareness of the neediness of others and you will be “amazing” too!

Bring on the comments

  1. People are amazing. :).

  2. So true Amanda, so true!

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