Posted on Friday, February 11, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social
Do not try to change the other person, the change starts with ourselves.
While writing this I feel many feelings. Amy and I are at peace but conflicts have arisen in other areas of my life, unforeseen conflicts that leave me feeling wounded, bloodied, scared and scarred. Realistically I cannot change anyone else. In the midst of conflict I have to deal with myself.
Dealing with Conflicts
1. Pray for wisdom to see situations clearly.
2. If you screw up, fess up.
3. Ask God for strength and discipline to change.
4. Stop sinning before something worse happens.
5. Ask others to help you stay on the right path.
Respond wisely to unjust criticism.
1. Listen carefully; if you screwed up, fess up.
2. Pray humbly…for wisdom to think and choose clearly.
3. Generally speaking it’s better to let others defend our character.
4. Plan carefully…never for revenge…in your anger do not sin [Rm. 12:17,19; Eph. 4:26-27]
If no one is responsible enough to confront sin then relationships, organizations and cultures crumble.
God sets a high standard of love: “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”[Ephesians 4:31-32, NLT]
In order to overcome anger and resentment it it’s important to pray for wisdom and for that absurd but necessary kind of love.