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Feb 7

Don’t Fear Love – Pt 4 of 10 – Ten Days Of *Loving* Advice

Posted on Monday, February 7, 2011 in Uncategorized

Loving, lasting relationships require patient persistent effort.

“I don’t know how you do what you do
I’m so in love with you
It just keeps getting better
I wanna spend the rest of my life
With you by my side
Forever and ever
Every little thing that you do
Baby I’m amazed by you”
Amazed by Lonestar

Most of us fantasize about safe, secure, tender, loving relationships. Sadly the words “I wanna spend the rest of my life with you by my side, forever and ever” seems like an unlikely fantasy to many people these days.

Love that lasts and lasts takes work. It doesn’t magically happen. It isn’t inevitable. And, fortunately it isn’t impossible.

We must hold tightly to the hope that we say is ours.” And with God help we will be strengthened when we feel tired and weak. With God’s help we can do what seems hard at the time. “We should keep on encouraging each other to be thoughtful and to do helpful things.” [Hebrews 10:23-24, CEV]

Strengthening our relationship with God in my experience strengthens my other relationships.  The time and effort we invest in a relationship is evidence of the value we place in it.  If we prioritize our relationship it will most likely give us a happier relationship; whether it’s with God or with a loved one.

How?

Respect one another and together you will deepen your understanding of love. Working together you will nurture your love.

When your loved one is “happy, be happy” and “when they are sad, be sad.

Edwin McCain’s song I’ll Be describes a sweet sentiment, “I’ll be your crying shoulder… I’ll be the greatest fan of your life.” Patient love with a sad person is critical to strengthen him or her. A weak person who is strengthened will heal. When healed then she or he can empower those who are later the weak ones.

When you’re in a fight don’t be proud and feel that you are smarter than others….Don’t mistreat someone who has mistreated you.” [Romans 12:15-17, CEV]

Guard yourself against the temptation to wound the other person.  Don’t call each other names. Never scream at each other.

Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ.” [Ephesians 4:31-32, NCV]

Learn to discuss any topic with your partner. While it may cause some uncomfortable feelings, trust is an important factor in any relationship. Choosing to talk through the tough things in your relationship and is a way of honoring one another.

Do you want a “forever and ever” relationship?  Do you want love that lasts?  Then learn to fight for love not fight to win.

Bring on the comments

  1. Wise words have been written! Practice, Practice, Practice. As one who has had to learn the hard way, making mistakes and harboring resentment and anger. I admit, if you do the following, peace is overflowing! Your relationships are so much stronger, and joy is abundant. “Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ.” [Ephesians 4:31-32, NCV]
    At first they were hard words to live by, but now, incredibly easy.

    On a side note:
    I have actually “sang” the Edwin McCain song to Aaron…but inserted “Ang” where fan should be. Ahem

    Edwin McCain’s song I’ll Be describes a sweet sentiment, “I’ll be your crying shoulder… I’ll be the greatest ANG of your life.”

  2. Angi, that’s a wonderful way to make a special song even more special!

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