Posted on Sunday, February 13, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social
It’s the 13th, February 13th, today.
Yesterday I wrote about my lack of natural romantic notions. I have not figured out how to discern what gift Amy wants at special occasions, when to push her and when to wait for her to ask for my advice, but I have been able to add. Since we started going out we have counted months just like teenagers do. Today is our 306th month anniversary!
For some readers that may not be a hope, dream or a goal. I understand, it was never a goal of mine either. My goal was that our love, our relationship, would never end.
I learned that ideal reading the Bible.
“God loves you and has chosen you as his own special people. So be gentle, kind, humble, meek, and patient. Put up with each other, and forgive anyone who does you wrong, just as Christ has forgiven you. Love is more important than anything else. It is what ties everything completely together.” [Colossians 3:12-14, CEV]
If you want a never gonna end relationship I recommend learning to forgive, genuinely forgive, one another.
How can you do that?
- Put up with each other through the good and bad moods remembering that you have them too.
- Forgive each other knowing that you also screw up and will need forgiveness to restore the peace in your relationship.
- Remember that love — expressed by choosing to forgive — is more important than “being right”, restoring your pride, winning the fight or holding a grudge in hopes that the other person “will learn their lesson.”
Do you want a healthy, long lasting relationship that has a great chance to be a never ending relationship? Choose to forgive, genuinely forgive, one another.
Caveat – This is important. Forgiveness is not trust. Some of you may have been in a relationship that was horrible, abusive and hurtful. The hurts and wounds have become scars. Forgiveness is a requirement of interpersonal relationships. Trust is a commodity; it is earned and it is lost. It can be built up and it can be torn down. Forgive generously, Trust carefully.