Posted on Monday, February 18, 2013 in Uncategorized
Last Friday began a series that will run all week called Dating Drama. Whether you’re dating or not, you know someone who is. This might be a chance for you to contribute, comment and encourage those who are.
Some people have great relationships, some not.
Friday night my boyfriend texted me. He dumped me; by TEXT!
When I asked him for an explanation, his reply was, “What are you talking about? I didn’t break up with you.” Apparently, he had meant the text for someone else. He was breaking up with another girlfriend (that I didn’t know about).
Maybe you’ve been wounded.
Last Friday and today I’m highlighting some wise advice from author Therese J. Borchard, author of 10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart.
6. Laugh. And cry.
Laughter heals on many levels, and so does crying. You think it’s just a coincidence that you always feel better after a good cry? Nope, there are many physiological reasons that contribute to the healing power of tears.
7. Make a good idea and bad idea list.
A “This would be a wise choice”, and “This would be an unwise choice” list. For instance, “stalking” his Facebook wall and seeing that he has just posted a photo of his gorgeous new girlfriend is not going to make you feel good, so put that on the “bad idea” list
8. Work it out.
Working out your grief quite literally — by running, swimming, exercising, walking, or kick-boxing — is going to give you immediate relief. On a physiological level — because exercise increases the activity of serotonin and/or norepinehrine and stimulates brain chemicals that foster growth of nerve cells — but also on an emotional level, because you are taking charge and becoming the master of your mind and body.
9. Create a new world.
Take this opportunity to try something new — scuba diving lessons, an art class, a book club, a blog — so to program your mind and body to expect a fresh beginning… without him (or her).
10. Find hope.
Hope is believing that the sadness can evaporate, that if you try to move on with your life, your smile won’t always be forced. Therefore in order to forgive and to move past fear, you need to find hope.
Great advice Theresa!
My hope is bolstered by many things – my wife’s smile, a hug, a listening ear, wise advice, laughter, a good book, the warmth of my laptop on a cool evening, the sound of my car starting, the smell of homemade chocolate cookies, a tasty salad, chocolate, etc. – but, my hope is rooted and grounded in one thing.
My faith in God’s willingness to love me. I have found it’s true, “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God…(because) the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love…(so) be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord…(because) hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.“
Thanks my hope. That’s where I go to calm mysilentscream.
Whether you agree or not, come back tomorrow as we continue our series on Dating Drama.
1 – Again, Therese J. Borchard’s insightful 10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart can be found here
2 – Psalm 42:5, NIV; Psalm 33:18, NIV; Psalm 31:24, NIV; Proverbs 13:12, NIV