Posted on Monday, October 1, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Last night after my wife Amy finished celebrating her Green Bay Packers victory we started prepping dinner. While making dinner The Simpsons came on.
If you don’t know, most Simpsons episodes begins with an opening sequence of several short clips including Bart Simpson satisfying a consequence by writing a phrase on the classroom chalkboard.
Known as the chalkboard gag, Wikipedia explains, “the chalkboard gag is a running visual joke that occurs during the opening credits of many episodes. In this gag, Bart Simpson is writing a unique phrase on the chalkboard repeatedly; when the school bell rings, he immediately stops writing and runs out of the classroom.” 1
Last night’s chalkboard gag was, “I will not wear white after Labor Day.” Bart wrote it while standing in a white suit.
Apparently Bart — intentionally or unintentionally — made a decision to break the fashion do not wear white after Labor Day rule.
As we move through our daily lives, our decision-making reflects our values. Our decisions reflect what we have learned.
We have learned that we want safety.
We have learned that we need to feel safe.
We have learned that we want to believe that we are safe.
We have learned that we want to balance security with significance.
“The most basic need,” wrote Larry Crabb, “is a sense of personal worth, an acceptance of oneself as a whole, real person. The two required inputs are significance (purpose, importance, adequacy for a job, meaningfulness, impact) and security” (unconditional love). 2
Where’s security and significance come from?
God Gives Unconditional Love
Jesus Christ said, “Abide in me as I abide in you.” Abide — remain in, stay, wait, be united to — me. 3
Is the cost of unity too high?
“Union with God does not mean the loss of our individuality”, wrote Richard Foster. “Far from causing any loss of identity, union brings about full person-hood. We become all that God created us to be.” 4
Unity allows us to become “all that God created us to be.”
Unity = (safe + secure) + significance
“That’s what I’m looking for!” is mysilentscream
1 – Wikipedia
2 – From Larry Crabb’s Effective Biblical Counseling
3 – John 15:4, NIV
4 – Richard Foster’s book Prayer: Finding Our Heart’s True Home.