Posted on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Sports
I know that this has happened to you. Today it happened to me.
The clock showed “10:41″, I relaxed, settled in and took a deep breath. I had time. No need to rush.
I did a couple quick things that needed to get done, took a quick glance at the clock, “Wow, I’m really efficient today.”
Then. Then! THEN! I thought to myself, that was too efficient. I checked another clock, “11:16″!
Noooooo! The clock had stopped!
My leisurely lunch deadline, now became my dead spring lunch deadline.
Things like that happen. It’s then you need a clutch play.
A clutch play is a moment in time when what needs to happen happens when it’s most needed.
In Sunday’s Super Bowl Eli Manning, the quarterback of the New York Giants led his team on a lead changing, game winning, touchdown scoring drive to win the game. “Manning led six comeback victories during the season and set an NFL record with 15 fourth-quarter touchdown passes.” 1
Eli Manning is a clutch player at his job. Clutch plays don’t just happen in sports. Clutch plays happen in the lunchroom, living room, boardroom, bedroom and cubicles.
How Can I Become A Clutch Player?
Most people want to be clutch players at their workplace, but when the pressure rises they fade like flowers in the hot sun.
“Leaders who perform well in big moments tend to be those who embrace it. Those who have made a practice of a calm, collected state of mind can fall back on it when the pressure rises”, wrote Jena McGregor of the Washington Post. 2
A calm, collected state of mind is what set Manning apart. It’s true he is naturally that way, but even if you and I are not — I’m not — we can learn it.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage our emotions. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence explains there are five abilities that comprise our emotional intelligence:
• Knowing our emotions
• Managing our emotions
• Recognizing emotions in others
• Managing relationships with others
• Motivating ourselves to achieve our goals 3
“Knowing our emotions” includes becoming more self-aware. We need to learn to understanding our central feelings, and to identify our emotions. For some that is easier than for others. Some of us are so cerebral we ignore an awareness of our emotional state. Others of us are so emotional that the torrent of emotions is hard to name. Knowing includes becoming aware of our silent self-talk statements and automatic thoughts accompanying our emotions and moods.
• Recognize your emotions as quickly as possible – Become more self-aware.
• Calm yourself – Becoming more self-aware helps.
• Notice how others are reacting – You might not be the only one in the cubicles who had the same reaction.
• Managing relationships with others — When panic sets in we need one another even more.
• Motivating ourselves to achieve our goals – A sincere thank you note or a chocolate chip cookie works for many of us!
It’s a battle, but a battle worth fighting.
As much as I wanted to be a clutch player, this is still a half hour late! This is mysilentscream! =(
1 – http://www.twincities.com/golf/ci_19900779
2 – http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/post-leadership/post/in-giants-super-bowl-win-eli-manning-shows-clutch-leadership/2011/04/01/gIQAbwJ0tQ_blog.html
3 – Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence is available here.