A clutch play is a moment in time when what needs to happen happens when it’s most needed. Clutch plays don’t just happen in sports. Clutch plays happen in the lunchroom, living room, boardroom, and bedroom.
We can count on her. She has poise.
He produces in the clutch. He’s reliable.
Be careful not to count on previous reliability.
Previous Success Doesn’t Guarantee Future Success
This past Sunday the former Super Bowl MVP Deion Branch dropped two passes, and former Super Bowl MVP Tom Brady threw an interception, missed an open receiver and looked panicked. They play for the New England Patriots, and lost.
I have found that choosing wisely in clutch situations is a constant battle against:
Many people battle with their emotions, and lose.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage our emotions. According to Daniel Goleman there are five abilities that comprise our emotional intelligence. These abilities include:
• Knowing our emotions
• Managing our emotions
• Recognizing emotions in others
• Managing relationships with others
• Motivating ourselves to achieve our goals 1
Our emotional intelligence likely contributes more to successful and enjoyable living, than our general intelligence.
Good News: Since emotional intelligence is learned rather than inherited, it can be improved.
Clutch Players In The Lunchroom
I’ve worked with thousands of teens over the past twenty years. Each with unique skill-sets, life experiences and drives.
As a student of people I love learning about cultures. While the adolescent culture is constantly changing there are some constants. One constant is some people are consistent students, some people are inconsistent students and some people are clutch players in the lunchroom.
Clutch players in the lunchroom:
• Remember a quiz is next hour and remind their classmates
• Focus on the task at hand and help others to do so
• Help others focus so they can succeed as well
• Recognize when conversations are playful and when they’ll escalate
• Step in and defend against bullies
• Mediate, calm others, and extinguish impulsive vengeful responses
Have you seen thse skills in others?
Have you seen those skills in yourself?
That’s applying emotional intelligence.
Personally, since I can be emotional, self-protective and impulsive I have found that a quick, sincere, three-second “Please God help me. I need wisdom to choose wisely.” prayer has calmed me, focused me and helped me many times.
“If any of you need wisdom, you should ask God, and it will be given to you. God is generous and won’t correct you for asking.” 2
Want to be a clutch player in your lunchroom? Ask God for help and embrace the value of developing your emotional intelligence.
1 – Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence is available here.
2 – James 1:5, CEV