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Apr 5

Clear Expectations

Posted on Friday, April 5, 2013 in Uncategorized

ahugI gave out my cell phone number to a new friend this week.

As soon as I shared my number I felt obligated to explain a few things:
– I don’t answer very often
– I don’t text back very quickly
– I don’t answer when I’m busy
– I don’t respond to people who call or text repeatedly

A few years ago I decided it was easier to explain this list of annoyances when I share my number than to have to make apologies.

I still know – even with those clear warnings – that I let people down. I know that I still annoy people with my unmet expectations, but there are less of them. I assure people that they are important to me and that I won’t answer random calls when I’m with them.

We all have demands.
We all have people we let down.
We all leave wounded people in our wake.

One of the keys is avoid having unhealthy expectations.
Here is a list of commonly expected but unhealthy expectations.
“Be perfect.”
“Do what I want.”
“Do things my way.”
“Like everything I like.”
“Never disagree with my ideas.”
“Have no other friends but me.”
“Text me, call me, see me every day.”

Whether we are coping with the challenges of peer pressure, peer pressure situations or unhealthy expectations it helps to do so wisely.

Bring on the comments

  1. So true. Expectations are so key to happiness and disappointment. I like that you tell everyone up front not to expect much from the cell phone communication. I may have to start using that tactic myself. 🙂

    Have a great weekend!

  2. Thank you Jeremy for reading, commenting and, yes, that cell phone warning has helped save aggravation.
    I’m looking forward to the weekend, and Monday my son turns 21.

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