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Aug 20

Good, Fine and Flies

Posted on Wednesday, August 20, 2014 in How To, Relational, Social, Values

2fliesWe have a small bucket outside our garage door. When we don’t want to walk to the back corner of our backyard to the compost pile we toss compostable kitchen scraps into the bucket.

Yesterday as I threw some scraps into the bucket dozens of flies instantly and unexpectedly flew out of the bucket.

Flies

Al Andrews wrote a humble and insightful post entitled, What To Say When Everything Is Not “Fine”.

It made me think of our bucket of flies.

Aug 14

Captivate by Interdependence

Posted on Thursday, August 14, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

heartsmanyYesterday was our 326-month wedding anniversary.
It’s also just a start.

Asking someone out is a start.
Dating is a shared-journey.
A wedding is a transitional celebration.
A marriage is an interdependent challenge.

Interdependence

I’m naturally introverted.
Therefore, community doesn’t come naturally.
Romance wasn’t in my born-with skill sets.
Interdependence seemed like weakness.

On the other hand, I wanted a long and happy marriage.

Interdependent Marriage

Aug 12

Captivated by Hope

Posted on Tuesday, August 12, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI have a friend learning to overcome her addiction. She’s at Hazelden looking for hope and skills. Last month Robin Williams was doing the same thing.

Sadly, yesterday the news spread that he’d given up his search.

Hope-less

Without hope
…parents give up
…the tempted give in
…spouses give up
…students drop out
…employers lessen expectations
…lovers give in
…lonely people lower standards
…people give up.

Too often people
…feel all alone
…feel unheard
…feel disconnected
…feel hopeless

In my experience people feel hope-less far more often than they need to.

Aug 11

Captivated by Love

Posted on Monday, August 11, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

heart - daisyToday I’ll be visiting with some special friends. One of the subjects we well undoubtedly discuss is love: Family love. Parental love. Dating love. Romantic love. Marital love. The love for the arts, and love for the artists who create it.

I’m sure we will talk about love.

Tomorrow, my wife, Amy and I will celebrate our 326th month wedding anniversary. We’ll talk about our love.

After all this time you think maybe love would be a breeze, but no.

Selfishness creeps into my heart and mind so easily.

Aug 1

Carve

Posted on Friday, August 1, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

CarveNOTE: Today’s #mysilentscream is about S_X. If your computer or network has filters that safeguard you and flag mail or websites about S_X you’ll have to get your #mysilentscream  elsewhere. =)

Today’s chalkboard: I will not carve gods.

When I was in elementary school I, like most kids, loved field trips. I loved them all, but one of my favorites was to the Field Museum in Chicago.

I loved the giant dinosaur skeleton!

Sex on the Second Level

Jul 30

Frail

Posted on Wednesday, July 30, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

FrailBart Simpson wrote, “I will not torment the emotionally frail.”

Seth Gobin wrote, “All of us fail. Successful people fail often, and, [they] learn more from that failure than everyone else.”

What doesn’t help? “Getting good at avoiding blame and casting doubt.” To paraphrase Gobin, while it may seem like blame increase your chances for survival and happiness, in fact it merely prevents you from learning from worthwhile failures.

“I will not torment the emotionally frail (including myself)”

Sometimes we put the blame on ourselves. Over the years I’ve probably been hardest on myself when I failed, or when someone was hurt because of me.

Jul 29

Cures

Posted on Tuesday, July 29, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

CuresToday’s chalkboard confirms my intentions today: “I will not sell miracle cures.”

I don’t have a miracle cure, and if I claimed to I would quickly be exposed as a fraud.

The Fear Of Exposure Perverts Our Thinking

“Psychologist Larry Crabb says that the primary motivation for all of our social behavior is a fear that if others really knew us as we are, they would reject us in disgust. This fear of exposure is rooted in our sense of the ugliness of our fallen natures as they have been perverted and corrupted by sin. Satan delights in inflaming this fear…”

Jul 28

Chalkboard

Posted on Monday, July 28, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

chalkboardMost Simpsons television episodes begin with an opening sequence of several short clips including Bart Simpson satisfying a consequence by writing a phrase on the classroom chalkboard.

Known as the chalkboard gag, “the chalkboard gag is a running visual joke that occurs during the opening credits of many episodes. In this gag, Bart Simpson is writing a unique phrase on the chalkboard repeatedly; when the school bell rings, he immediately stops writing and runs out of the classroom.” 1

This week we’ll look at a few chalkboards and how they may or may not be written on the chalkboard of our lives.

Jul 23

Inspire

Posted on Wednesday, July 23, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse

BiancaRamirezandfriendTo paraphrase a great quote: “Good people inspire themselves; great people inspire others.” 

I love that my life is filled with people like my friend Bianca. Her courage, determination and resolve inspires me to be better at what I do.

Thanks to Bianca, and all the rest of you who don’t settle and want more

You can read more about Bianca’s courage and TreeHouse’s contribution to her life here.

Jul 17

The Number Is Zero

Posted on Thursday, July 17, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

360px-Earthquake_cracks_near_BexleyI have a friend who read the Bible and his conclusions broke his heart. He read about a God who didn’t fit his paradigm. He read about a God who didn’t do what he thought best. He read about a God who seemed to sit silent through tragedy. His crumbling faith and doubts rippled through him like an earthquake. The chasm led him to abandon his previous love for God.

When people face tragedy, they usually have one of three reactions. They blame God, they turn to God for help or they abandon God.