Posted on Tuesday, November 25, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Almost every week I hear someone say, “she made me…” or “he made me…” as if they could.
Without a doubt we influence one another, but far too often we justify bad attitudes and hurtful responses because of the attitudes and decisions of others.
This week when tempers flare during your holiday gatherings here are three strategies to drop the drama:
1. Choose to use a soft voice.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.“ 1
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose a soft and kind tone in your voice.
Posted on Wednesday, November 19, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values
This coming weekend I will be on a retreat. The images I’m featuring on #mysilentscream this week will be from works of “art” I created on various TreeHouse staff retreats.
When my friend Jill Lacher first challenged us to do art I laughed. “I am not artistic. I got Ds in art class, and I earned them.”
In time I learned that I had an artistic eye, but not like in art studios, museums or hanging on walls.
I learned to put words on paper that reached deep into my creative soul.
Posted on Wednesday, November 5, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
Like crashing symbols
Clawing for attention
That’s $%^&&*&* up!
Last night I had the hardest support group I’ve led in more than ten years. Teens yelling, screaming, not listening to one another nearly enough.
At TreeHouse teens learn that they are not alone in dealing with any issue. There is always someone who can relate to what is going on in another group member’s life. Teens learn how to support someone else in need. They are reminded that they are lovable, capable and worthwhile. TreeHouse support groups become a place where youth know that they will always be listened to and that what they say matters to others.
Posted on Wednesday, October 29, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Values
June 13, 1987, that’s our wedding day.
My wife and I have a monthly tradition to celebrate all “13th” of the month.
Like most couples we celebrate our anniversary each year.
Today we’re adding another tradition I hope happens again.
We’re now celebrating every 10,000 days too. =)
Today is our 10k-wedding-day anniversary!
When I was a kid I hated math homework, but, over the years I’ve learned that I love math. Now, my favorite part of following sports is the analytics. 1
Posted on Tuesday, October 28, 2014
in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual
“Just save me … from all that I am.”
“Save me” is a phrase I can relate to, both in a theological sense, but also to be saved from the consequences of misdeeds, misguided decisions, relational disappointments and circumstantial despair.
“Just save me … from all that I am” is a plea of the broken. Like a displaced broken bone that needs to be reset, repentance – as I’ve heard Ruth Haley Barton say – is a “death that needs to happen.”
Posted on Monday, October 27, 2014
in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
No one would accuse me of being a huge hip-hop fan. On the other hand, I admire people who can make me think.
Propaganda is one of those people.
After listening to his latest release “Crimson Cord” I returned to his previous called “Excellence.” They both are!
This link connects to an artful typography video of Forgive Me For Asking. Listen up. Think deep.
Ask with me, “How do I settle for ignorance?”
Forgive Me For Asking
Question: this is embarrassing
You ever been scared you had no idea what you were talking about?
Yeah, me too
I’ve lied and so have you
Posted on Friday, October 3, 2014
in Music, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
I spent hours this week listening to and reading the lyrics of the current Billboard Hot 100. Musicians are often viewed as spokespersons of their generation.
For the cynics among us, it’s not all bad news.
At TreeHouse every week we remind our teens that “you’re not alone” because so many people – young and old – feel like they are the only one dealing with those feelings and thoughts. So it’s good news that two of the most popular songs have self-affirming messages.
Meghan Trainor “All About That Bass”
Posted on Thursday, October 2, 2014
in Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
I spent hours today listening to and reading the lyrics of the current Billboard Hot 100. Every generation has it’s spokespersons. Musicians are often viewed as spokespersons of their generation. I was looking for insight and wisdom.
What I found were some very common themes.
Today I’ll share these.
Lessons From The Top
Life has no meaning.
Life is short; play and party hard.
Don’t waste time searching for meaning. Life is random and painful; get high or suffer through it.
Payback and revenge make wrongs right.
I can find meaning through fun, fame, cars, jewelry, etc.
Posted on Thursday, August 28, 2014
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I know a lot of people disappointed with “the church.”
I don’t know of a perfect church out there; ours included.
There is always a point – or sermon – I disagree with, music that I don’t like, people that I don’t know, looks that feel judging, practices that confuse me, etc., etc.
They probably feel the same way about me! And you.
I’ve attended many churches of several denominations. In fact, I was in a church today with some things I fully agreed with and some teachings that … uhm, no!
Posted on Tuesday, August 26, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
He could hear the yelling from the neighbors’ house every night.
Shouts of anger.
Shouts of pain.
Shouts of passion.
“Was there any gain?”
The Cost of Turmoil
Teens, families, friendships and all kinds of relationships suffer because of the lack of peaceful conflict resolution skills. Conflicts arise, those involved feel hurt, disappointed, afraid or frustrated, and it quickly turns into anger. Anger often erupts in retaliation or brutal honesty. Alienation increases, relationships are broken, and scars are formed.