It’s heartbreaking to see people in pain. It’s perplexing to hear of loved ones who hurt one another.
Most people try to help not hurt. Most people look for solutions not problems, but too often the solutions slam one another.
“Good people” gossip.
“Kind-hearted” people talk behind backs.
“Loving” people SCREAM angrily!
Foolish, hurtful solutions to initiate change.
“And so, each of us must give an account to God for what we do…Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God.” 1
I’m watching a television show this week called, “An Idiot Abroad.” It’s an odd and somewhat awkward travel show “hosted” – I use that word loosely – by Karl Pilkington.
In the first three episodes Karl travels to China, India, Israel and Jordan. He visits tourist centers and rural outposts while assigned by the show’s producers to visit The 7 Wonders of the World.
While traveling Karl comments freely on his personal inconveniences. He talks at length about his troublesome circumstances and his feelings.
Posted on Friday, May 9, 2014
in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Values
When you think about the legacy you have left thus far, what comes to mind?
It’s easy for me to be selfish.
It’s easy for me to be condescending.
It’s easy for me to be rude.
It’s easy for me to be argumentative.
It’s easy for me to be prideful.
Those attributes unfortunately come easy for me.
I’ve spent far too much time being greedy, wanting my way, putting others down, defending myself or my opinion without enough regard for what really matters in life.
Posted on Monday, April 28, 2014
in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
We all have blind spots in our life; misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.
Last week in Rules Are FOR People I explained that we live in a reckless, rule-ignoring, freedom-focused society. Far too often in our quest for freedom we create a new blind spot.
When I think of self esteem I tend to lean one of three ways; three paths my thoughts follow.
1. I focus on my own self-interests, because I am selfish.
2. I focus on the my self-reliance, because I see myself in the mirror.
3. I focus on the tension I feel between my secular education and my spiritual life.
The following essay by Randy Alcorn effectively sets my paths straight.
Two Sources of Self-Esteem: Secular & Christian
When I am teaching people how to teach the Bible I have had a consistent message: “Pray, pray, pray, and, while maintaining healthy boundaries, teach what God is teaching you.
When you have the choice, teach what God has taught you recently or is teaching you now. It’s fresh.
Since you are teaching what you are learning it will come from you to your audience from the perspective of a learner.”
This is important to me because I have fallen into the trap of feeling like I needed to appear to be “the expert” more than I’d like to admit.
For as long as I can recall I have struggled with the fear of rejection and the fear of failure. Though I’ve made progress, the battle continues.
Maybe you struggle with those fears too.
There are many things I try to elevate up my sense of self worth including personal happiness, hearty laughter at home, healthy friendships and professional success, but nothing seems to have lasting impact.
I have loving family members, caring friends, wise mentors, learned teachers, honorable leaders, truth-telling pastors, life-coaches and counselors, and a pile of good books, but it’s still not enough.
Posted on Friday, January 24, 2014
in Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values
If you asked me if I struggled with anxiety, most days I would say “no.” If you asked me if I was listening to myself enough to know, I’d probably shrug my shoulders. Usually self-reflection takes a back-seat to busyness.
The Burden & Blessing of Busyness
On Wednesday TreeHouse (my employer) committed a day to “fasting and prayer.” My busyness was set aside. 1
My tendency to be a busyness-burdened workaholic comes from a mashup of my strengths and my fears. According to “Strengths Finder” my strengths (#2-5) include Activator, Learner, Ideation, and Achiever. I like to learn, think through what I’ve learned and put what I’m learning to use, but the fear of rejection cries out “You’re stupid and lazy”; it’s subtle, but it’s relentless.
Posted on Friday, January 10, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sports, Values
Drew Brees had been unemployed, experienced a career-threatening injury, and was filled with self-doubt. Sundays he’s an NFL football player. Here are the insights he gained. 1
“From my perspective, it’s when the rug gets pulled out from under you that you really find your calling in life. Those defining moments don’t have to be tragedies. When they’re viewed through the lens of God’s plans, they can be ‘points of purpose’ in your life.”
Posted on Wednesday, December 18, 2013
in Emotional, Intellectual, Values
Growing up in Chicago on Sunday afternoons I was introduced to the Basil Rathbone and Nigel Bruce series of Sherlock Holmes films.
– I loved their compassion.
– I loved their pursuit of justice.
– I loved their witty banter.
– I loved their moral high-ground.
– I loved their community involvement.
– I loved they solved challenging mysteries.
– I loved their intellect and deductive analysis.
– I loved Holmes patience with Watson his intelligent but intellectually inferior partner.
– I loved the humanity Watson brought the to the too-often cerebral Holmes.
– I loved that Holmes knew and admitted he needed his friend Watson to ground him.