When I think of self esteem I tend to lean one of three ways; three paths my thoughts follow.
1. I focus on my own self-interests, because I am selfish.
2. I focus on the my self-reliance, because I see myself in the mirror.
3. I focus on the tension I feel between my secular education and my spiritual life.
The following essay by Randy Alcorn effectively sets my paths straight.
Two Sources of Self-Esteem: Secular & Christian
Posted on Thursday, January 23, 2014
in Education, Reviews, Values
I love to read.
I prefer non-fiction.
I don’t dislike fiction; I like fiction, but I prefer to listen to fiction through audio books. Audio books remind me of listening to old-time radio shows while on long drives with my family when I was a child.
It’s football season, so I try to work a couple football books into my reading list. I recently finished Steve McMichael’s Amazing Tales from the Chicago Bears Sideline (Tales from the Team). You can find the review here.
I’m nearly done with Drew Brees’ Coming Back Stronger. You can read some of Brees’ insights here.
Posted on Wednesday, November 27, 2013
in Education, How To, Reviews
Michael Hyatt explains in the Introduction, “Whether you are a professional speaker, pastor, corporate executive, author—or are just passionate about a message—you can take your communication skills to the next level. Ken’s SCORRE system truly revolutionized my public presentations. The good news? What I learned from him sits right here, in this book. Within these pages, you’ll learn how to:
• dramatically reduce your prep time,
• communicate with more clarity and focus,
• increase your ability to connect with the audience, and
• craft speeches that leave an impact.”
Posted on Monday, November 25, 2013
in Education, Intellectual, Values
DO schedule your studying times.
Do NOT neglect some playtime.
DO schedule phone-free times.
Do NOT blow off your sleep-time.
DO ask people with good study skills what helps them.
Do NOT neglect some time with family and friends.
DO drink plenty of water.
Do NOT rely on caffeine and energy drinks for energy.
DO eat healthy foods.
Do NOT rely on cramming if you can choose not to. It’s unreliable.
Disclosure: I didn’t always follow these tips, but I’ve learned these lessons from my poor choices, my good choices and the wisdom of others.
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Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013
in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values
As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.“
I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.
Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.
Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.
Posted on Wednesday, November 20, 2013
in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
It’s nearly Finals Week for many students. As Finals week approaches Seniors in high school typically have one of four responses. They might be Soakers, Succumbers, those who are Saddened and those who are Survivors.
Soakers – They soak it all in knowing that it can be a year of highlights they will enjoy for life
Succumbers – They succumb to “senioritis” and bide their time until graduation when they can take their next steps.
Saddened – They feel regret knowing that most of their classmates will graduate, but they will not– whether because circumstances within their control, or circumstances that they could not.
Posted on Tuesday, October 15, 2013
in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
Today I’ll spend a couple of hours in a junior high school. While watching, listening and learning from these young teens I will see young masters of communication.
When we are young we learn to be skillful masters of communication: “…men and women may communicate negative relational messages such as contempt and belligerence via loud, sarcastic voices, disgusted facial gestures, frowns, scowls, glares, gaze avoidance, or distancing. These negative expressions obviously would qualify as unskillful if the objective is to create a close and loving relationship, but they would qualify as skillful if the objective is to signal one’s level of distress and dissatisfaction with a relationship.” 1
I’m traveling in beautiful Colorado.
I’m blessed to be leading and teaching others. Some of the lessons are hard.
I’m also in a season of learning. Some of the lessons are hard too.
Fortunately, I have a loving and supportive family, faithful friends and wise people around me.
The following are a couple lessons I am learning. I hope that they shed some light into your darkness too.
“The sinner shall be justified by faith,” but too seldom we find a place for the truth, “The just shall live by faith” – Andrew Murray
Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013
in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
Do you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?
We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.
I have been that person.
When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.
One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”
It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.
The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.
Almost every day someone asks me to help them with a relationship concern.
– What’s her problem?
– What can I do?
– What’s he thinking?
– How should I explain…
Most people are looking for a solution.
I’ve found one. I’ve found empathy improves all of my relationships.
According to brittanica.com empathy is “the ability to imagine oneself in another’s place and understand the other’s feelings, desires, ideas, and actions.” 1