Posted on Thursday, August 4, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Recently I’ve written about the value of self-esteem insurance. I think it’s important to access our strengths first.
And, admit your weaknesses second.
Some people admit their weaknesses easily. Sometimes it’s one of their strengths; for others it’s a weakness.
People who are or are becoming emotionally and spiritually healthy see weaknesses for what they are, challenges.
People who are not becoming emotionally and spiritually healthy see weaknesses as problems that cause pain they want to avoid, deficits to deny, and shameful secrets to conceal.
You, on the other hand, are still reading. Congratulations! You want more for your life than denial and lies.
If you took the Jung Typology Test with us, please pull out your results.
If you did not, it’s FREE, quick and easy, and, I believe this will honestly help you. You can find it here.
I was an ISFJ. What type did your results identify you as?
Keirsy.com explains, “Each personality type has different stressors and copes in different ways. Better understanding of your own stressors and coping mechanisms can help you reduce the tension and anxiety work stress often creates.”
I have found this to be true in my own life. As I’ve learned to admit my weaknesses I am able to protect myself from over-reacting and unmanageable feelings.
Take look at your results, particularly the “Dealing with Stress from Work” page found here.
What weaknesses of yours are highlighted? What have they missed? Here are three of mine and how I’m dealing with them.
Admission of Guilt – My Weakness #1 – Workaholism = Self-Destruction
“When they’ve overdone it, their only recourse to relieving these pressures is to become sick. Of course, they don’t choose to become sick, it is simply their body’s response to the overload.” I read that to my wife, she rolled her eyes and laughed.
For the last three days I awoke after four and a half hours of sleep. I can go through a day or two of that, but I’ll pay a price. My body wears down.
And, not just my body. I know that when I mismanage my life that my my thoughts, feelings and reactions all go too.
Practical solutions – Eat healthy. Exercise. Try to get at least six hours of sleep a night.
Admission of Guilt – My Weakness #2 – Self-Aware Blindness
If you’ve known me for any time you know that there are times that I need to be told to relax. When I don’t relax I wear down. My family and friends know I need to take a break before I do.
Practical solutions: Since I don’t naturally take breaks, I need to add intentional breaks in my schedule. I need to say “yes” less often. And, I need to listen to the warnings of others when they’re seeing me better than I’m seeing myself.
Admission of Guilt – Weakness #3 – When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities
When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.
Solution – Repent. I believe that “If you screw up, fess up.”
I have to go to my wife, and to God, and apologize. “I’m sorry. I …, and I wish that I didn’t. Please forgive me.” Beyond that I know I need their help to make meaningful changes to overcome my weaknesses.