Posted on Monday, November 19, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
As I was approaching fifty years old I sought the wisdom of my elders. I sought out men and women older than I was to learn lessons on life that they had been learning.
I would ask:
I know that you have spent your career with men and women older than yourself.
In that time you have listened and learned as they’ve talked about their lives and their values. You have gathered insights and wisdom from their successes and their failures.
This year I’m turning 50 and I’m starting to feel middle-aged.
I don’t know how old you are, but I know you’ve learned from those older than us.
So I’ve been booking meetings with men and women who are ahead of me on that journey to ask:
“What do you know now better than you did when you were turning fifty that would help me?”
If you’re interested in adding to my treasure chest of wisdom…“
My quest for wisdom has been a delight time to learn.
Today begins a series I’m calling “A Treasure Chest Of Wisdom.” It’s a collection of wisdom and insights I’m gathering from these interviews. These are lessons I am learning and trying to apply in my life. Maybe you’ll find them beneficial too.
A Treasure Chest Of Wisdom – Don’t Hold Grudges
I met with a nationally known leader (not pictured) who had been very successful.
He wasn’t always liked or loved. One time a close ally betrayed his trust. It was a hard and hurtful time for both men.
“Be gentle ready to forgive,” he said, “don’t hold grunges. Let love guide your life.”
“Always be gentle with others. The Lord will soon be here. Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and requests to God. Then, because you belong to Christ Jesus, God will bless you with peace that no one can completely understand. And this peace will control the way you think and feel.” 1
Let the peace of Christ…
Let the peace that comes from Christ…calm your mind.
In order that you can be productive.
Peace = Shalom.
Shalom does not mean “no conflict,” it means “stability and equilibrium.”
So, don’t worry about pleasing everybody.
What did you do when your friend’s turn on you?
Accountability is important all of the time, but it’s especially important in the midst of a conflict.
Beware: Self-promoting people are not well respected.
I chose not to confront him.
He chose not to address it.
He’s never mentioned it.
If I had gone after him it would have been ugly for everyone involved.
By admitting that I did not know all the information I was able to dropped it.
I do not hold a grudge.
Let the peace of Christ…
Let the peace that comes from Christ…set you free.
1 – Philippians 4:5-7, CEV