Posted on Wednesday, September 19, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values
Curtis Eichelberger’s new book Men of Sunday reviewed here recounts the story of Trent Dilfer, his son, and his family’s heart-aching, heart-breaking, and inspiring saga. You might want to read part 1 and part 2 first.
“I never asked why,” says Dilfer. “I’ve never been obsessed with what it was or why it happened.”
Dilfer believes that God is loving and merciful and that there must have been something at play that he couldn’t comprehend.
Who could comprehend good coming out of so much suffering?
Forty days of praying. Forty days of hoping God would save his son. Forty days of offering his own life in exchange for an innocent little boy who never had a chance to see all the joy and wonder life on earth offers. For nothing.
It begs the question: Why pray if in your greatest hour of need, God is not there for you? It’s a fair question.
“The truth of God’s Word is that this is not our home,” Dilfer painfully acknowledges. “If the motivation for your faith is what’s going on in the seventy-five or ninety years we have here on earth, then you are missing the truth of God’s promises. What God promises is eternity. This is not our home. When we make the decision to trust in Him and to follow Him, our home is with Him for eternity.”
Dilfer says that when Trevin died, he experienced a peace that is hard to describe. He understands the skeptics will have a field day with that statement, but he’s OK with that. He doesn’t get upset by those who question him because he understands that unless you live it, it’s difficult to grasp. How can a man who just lost his beloved son feel peace?
“There is a Bible verse that’s resonated with me from the time this happened and every day since in my struggles,” Dilfer shares. “‘And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus’ [Philippians 4:7].
“I will stand on the rooftops and scream out that, yes, I lost my five-year-old son, my only son. I faced life’s greatest tragedy. But without a shadow of a doubt, I have experienced that promise of a peace that transcends understanding. I can’t always articulate it. I can’t explain it. I can’t fathom it at times.
“I can’t fathom that as we turned life support off and I saw devastation in my wife and felt it myself, at the same exact moment we had this incredible peace of what was happening and we continued to have a peace and my daughters who live faithful lives have a peace. I don’t know how else to say it. Is it a supernatural occurrence when the Holy Spirit of God lives in you and you choose to be obedient to Him? People say that makes no sense. That it’s crazy. And I get it. I get their skepticism. I’ve experienced a supernatural occurrence in my life, and it’s inexplicable.”