Posted on Monday, September 17, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values
“Trevin was Dilfer’s only son, the only other man in a house full of women. He loved to hang out with his daddy in the locker room and often challenged Trent’s teammates to footraces.”
Curtis Eichelberger interviewed many current and former NFL players including Mike Singletary, Justin Tuck, LaDainian Tomlinson, Oshiomogho Atogwe, and Jay Feely about football’s violent nature, the sacrifices players and families make, adversity they face, temptations they endure, and the call to being leaders and role models.
Eichelberger’s new book Men of Sunday reviewed here recounts the story of Trent Dilfer, his son, and his family’s heart-aching, heart-breaking, and inspiring saga. 1
“He had blond hair and was all of about fifty pounds when the virus felled him. The surprise, doctors later told Dilfer, was that it went to his heart. That’s not common.
Trevin was in pain and was kept sedated while in the hospital. Doctors said he needed a heart transplant, but to get on the list he had to prove he had brain activity. They reduced the sedative so he could feel.
“I knew he could hear us. His eyes would flicker. He could grip a little bit, like the slightest touch in his fingertips, but he was in a ton of pain when he did it so we only allowed it to happen one time,” Dilfer said.
They put him on the list for a heart donation.
For the next twenty-five days, friends and family would visit to support Trent and Cass and to pray over their little boy. Any sort of infection would reduce the chances of a successful transplant and would kick Trevin off the donor list.
Every day that passed had its worries, and of course, though no one wanted to think about it, everyone was waiting for some other family to suffer the most horrific event of their lives so Trevin could get a heart.
Trent and Cass would stand at the end of their little boy’s bed and rub his feet. Trevin’s sisters, who were staying with their grandparents, talked into a tape recorder so he could hear their voices and know that his sisters loved him and that they weren’t far away.
Then, they sat and waited.