Posted on Wednesday, July 25, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
When people listen, really listen, great things happen.
Displaying a warm and friendly disposition toward others is important, but in this generation we need much more.
Friendly smiles help other feel safer, but in this age many people experience a crisis of isolation. In order to overcome our sense of isolation we need people to listen, really listen to us.
How can we learn to be better listeners?
Recognizing our tendency to be “tellers” instead of listeners is one good way. Another is to really, truly admit that there are benefits of asking questions instead of giving answers. Not that we should not be telling people our opinions, but I believe it’s important to listen more than most people do.
Too often we are “takers” — using others by demanding that we be heard — rather than “givers” — who contribute to the lives of others.
8 Benefits Of Asking Questions Instead Of Demanding To Be Heard
Questions help us understand the problem from another perspective.
Questions help us explore solutions you may not have considered.
Questions draw out solutions.
Questions help us identify the other person’s needs, goals and intentions.
Questions communicate our trust in their ability to solve the problem.
Questions place the responsibility for finding a solution on one another.
Questions allow us to help the other person evaluate the choices she or he has.
Questions build confidence and independence in problem solving.